Fitting in – Don’t.

My thoughts float around the idea of finding the place I am most comfortable in. Just scrolling down the wall on WordPress, I found myself wondering if I should make my blog more focused on a single topic, or having it more like -this person- etc. etc. Narrowing it down, I was attempting to find a place to fit in. And to fit in, I’d have to change myself. That is something I refuse to do to myself.

Being social creatures, us humans crave a sense of belonging and comfort. Though I enjoy being among my friends and meeting people that enjoy the same things I do, the best comfort is myself. In my mind and on my own, I can do whatever freely. No worrying about what someone thinks of me.

This idea of loving my unique thoughts projected outward faster than I imagined. This was the confidence that created Abandoned Lyrics. Because I found something I already was comfortable with, it was easy to just act on my thoughts.

Of course, in the world there are always going to be people who do not like the things you do and you have to understand that. You have to come to appreciate the fact that everyone is different. Stand your ground no matter the situation. Your unique way of thinking will be accepted by someone, somewhere. Those are the people you should keep around.

FUCK THE HATERS.

I wish I had this mentality during my younger years, where I struggled the most with finding a niche. I never fit into any group. I was always somewhere caught in the middle. Even during small tests to figure out if I was right brained or left brained, I would always have to answer a tie breaker. Little things like this made me realize that I do not have to be one or the other. I can be both. There is a reason my blog never focuses on one central idea. I am passionate about several things, not a single thing and that is okay.

• Love yourself: Find what you like best about yourself. If you don’t like something, work to change it. You are in control of yourself and no one else. No excuses.

• Be yourself: There is a reason I put “Love yourself,” before this. You have to appreciate everything about you. Only then, will it show on the outside.

• Shine: Leaders are born when they choose not to fit in. They choose to shine over the rest. Be that light. Be the eagle among the pigeons.

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The Struggle and the Solution

Like most college students, especially being a freshman, I find myself struggling to keep track of my work. While I did not have much of a social life before, being in a new environment has opened up new doors. There are people and opportunities coming into my life and being the person I am, i want to take advantage of all of them. This is where the struggle began. Balancing the time between papers, study time and the actual classes was already difficult enough. Not to mention my normal 8-9 hours of sleep have been cut to maybe five hours maximum.

Technology is a temptation. It is easy to turn your phone off and push it aside, but it also just that easy to put it back on. Taking a five minute break and going on Facebook can so easily become half an hour, and then an hour, and then a couple of hours. With all the social media, it is so difficult to stay focused.

Luckily, I put myself back on track.

The solution(s):

1.) I find that being in a place that promotes studying helps me do so. Instead of staying home where I have technology at my fingertips, I go to the library and leave my phone at home. Simply being in a different environment can work wonders for people.

Going back to the turning off the phone, it simply does not work. Surprisingly, there are apps and websites to help you concentrate when you are at home.

2.) For Mac users, there is an app called SelfControl. Like most of the following, this site is designed to block websites that you have to avoid for a set amount of time.

3.) For PC, you can get Cold Turkey. Like the SelfControl app, you are able to block websites, games and even programs.

This requires the download of a program, though. There is another option of just installing extensions. Since this option is supported by many platforms (and because someone has laid out the directions for installing them), I’ll provide a link that you can follow to block the social media. This, however, works only when you’re on the computer.

SITE: http://hackmystudy.com/how_to_block_specific_websites.html

(The main site is a great help as well)

Finally, there is the problem of picking up your phone. Since, I’m more familiar with the iPhone, I’ll go ahead and talk about that. I’m pretty sure Android users have some type of solution similar to the following.

Well, you know how sometimes you put your phone on silent and then cannot find it? Do exactly that. Put your phone on silent and give it to a trusted friend to hide it for you.

So what if there is no one around?

Here is somewhat of a solution.

Grab a piece of pen and paper and go through your phone settings. Look for the option that enables you to put long passwords on your phone. Make sure it is a difficult pattern that most likely will not stick into your head. If it requires letters, let it go something like this:

hcunrghsits (a.k.a a bunch of nonsense)

JUST MAKE SURE YOU WRITE IT DOWN. Write it and leave it with the phone. Though you know where it is, it is probably going to be a hassle to type that into your phone.

Should these options not work for you, well…. You probably really, really, need some help.

Happy studying! 😀

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About Abandoned Lyrics

Here at Abandoned Lyrics, thoughts are able to run free without restrictions. This is the place to voice thoughts without the fear of consequences or judgement. These are the thoughts that would be edited out from the list of things being spoken in the real world, hence, Abandoned Lyrics.


WRITER BEHIND ABANDONED LYRICS

Writing started as a pastime that was able to temporarily carry me to a judgement free world. While the world looked upon me with those judgmental eyes, I cowered and kept my voice to myself. Silence was a safety blanket. Growing up makes you realize that if you do not speak your thoughts, the world cannot see what you have to offer. I trained myself to no longer edit the things that run through my mind. Though it can get me in trouble, what is life without a bit of fear?