Fitting in – Don’t.

My thoughts float around the idea of finding the place I am most comfortable in. Just scrolling down the wall on WordPress, I found myself wondering if I should make my blog more focused on a single topic, or having it more like -this person- etc. etc. Narrowing it down, I was attempting to find a place to fit in. And to fit in, I’d have to change myself. That is something I refuse to do to myself.

Being social creatures, us humans crave a sense of belonging and comfort. Though I enjoy being among my friends and meeting people that enjoy the same things I do, the best comfort is myself. In my mind and on my own, I can do whatever freely. No worrying about what someone thinks of me.

This idea of loving my unique thoughts projected outward faster than I imagined. This was the confidence that created Abandoned Lyrics. Because I found something I already was comfortable with, it was easy to just act on my thoughts.

Of course, in the world there are always going to be people who do not like the things you do and you have to understand that. You have to come to appreciate the fact that everyone is different. Stand your ground no matter the situation. Your unique way of thinking will be accepted by someone, somewhere. Those are the people you should keep around.


I wish I had this mentality during my younger years, where I struggled the most with finding a niche. I never fit into any group. I was always somewhere caught in the middle. Even during small tests to figure out if I was right brained or left brained, I would always have to answer a tie breaker. Little things like this made me realize that I do not have to be one or the other. I can be both. There is a reason my blog never focuses on one central idea. I am passionate about several things, not a single thing and that is okay.

• Love yourself: Find what you like best about yourself. If you don’t like something, work to change it. You are in control of yourself and no one else. No excuses.

• Be yourself: There is a reason I put “Love yourself,” before this. You have to appreciate everything about you. Only then, will it show on the outside.

• Shine: Leaders are born when they choose not to fit in. They choose to shine over the rest. Be that light. Be the eagle among the pigeons.