Fitting in – Don’t.

My thoughts float around the idea of finding the place I am most comfortable in. Just scrolling down the wall on WordPress, I found myself wondering if I should make my blog more focused on a single topic, or having it more like -this person- etc. etc. Narrowing it down, I was attempting to find a place to fit in. And to fit in, I’d have to change myself. That is something I refuse to do to myself.

Being social creatures, us humans crave a sense of belonging and comfort. Though I enjoy being among my friends and meeting people that enjoy the same things I do, the best comfort is myself. In my mind and on my own, I can do whatever freely. No worrying about what someone thinks of me.

This idea of loving my unique thoughts projected outward faster than I imagined. This was the confidence that created Abandoned Lyrics. Because I found something I already was comfortable with, it was easy to just act on my thoughts.

Of course, in the world there are always going to be people who do not like the things you do and you have to understand that. You have to come to appreciate the fact that everyone is different. Stand your ground no matter the situation. Your unique way of thinking will be accepted by someone, somewhere. Those are the people you should keep around.


I wish I had this mentality during my younger years, where I struggled the most with finding a niche. I never fit into any group. I was always somewhere caught in the middle. Even during small tests to figure out if I was right brained or left brained, I would always have to answer a tie breaker. Little things like this made me realize that I do not have to be one or the other. I can be both. There is a reason my blog never focuses on one central idea. I am passionate about several things, not a single thing and that is okay.

• Love yourself: Find what you like best about yourself. If you don’t like something, work to change it. You are in control of yourself and no one else. No excuses.

• Be yourself: There is a reason I put “Love yourself,” before this. You have to appreciate everything about you. Only then, will it show on the outside.

• Shine: Leaders are born when they choose not to fit in. They choose to shine over the rest. Be that light. Be the eagle among the pigeons.


Bullying and Self-Harm – Anonymous

The question: Hi i saw that you said to post whatever my mind wonders about and i really need someone to talk to. i get bullied a lot for my looks and my scars cuz i cut and the bullying just makes me do it more it is like an endless circle any advise for me please

Dear Anonymous,

I know exactly how you feel from experience. This is such a deep, personal topic, but here on Abandoned Lyrics, we can be free to speak of what we need to. This is one of those questions that conjures up so many memories of my younger days, coincidentally for the same exact thing; my looks.

Growing up, though, I realized no one can bully me without my consent. Why should you value their opinion? Because you show that you actually care and let it get to you, the bullies will just keep going at it. In life, we have to appreciate ourselves for being different. Everyone is human, everyone. Love the person you are and look at all the great things about you. Your friends obviously find something that is amazing about you which is why they are your friends. Just think positive and find your confidence. Learn to smile more and not care about what people think. When you have that confidence, it shows and makes you untouchable. You are the only person whose opinion matters when it comes to yourself. They are only obstacles in the way of achieving your goal. Just focus on that bigger goal in your mind, reach for it and push all that blocks you from reaching it, away.

As for self harm, I have also been down that road and I am a recovered self-harmer. Recovering from that takes time and dedication to yourself, not anyone else. Focus on what makes you happy. You are beautiful and some day, you will soar. When that time comes, your bullies will probably be the ones working for YOU. Step one is to get rid of the blade. Don’t think about it, just do it. Then think of what you want in the future. I always think, would I want my future child to ask what these scars are? To think it is okay to hurt themself? No, I don’t and I hope you don’t either.

The scars you already have.. Let them be and let them heal. Those are your battle scars. It might be a reminder of what you been through, but they are also reminders that you are not that person anymore and you can stand up alone without depending on the blade for comfort.

YOU are beautiful.

YOU control your life.

YOU are priceless.

Find your confidence, it is your secret weapon. Use it and you will shine.

I hope you keep in touch and update me on how you are doing. I would really love to know.

-Abandoned Lyrics.


The Struggle and the Solution

Like most college students, especially being a freshman, I find myself struggling to keep track of my work. While I did not have much of a social life before, being in a new environment has opened up new doors. There are people and opportunities coming into my life and being the person I am, i want to take advantage of all of them. This is where the struggle began. Balancing the time between papers, study time and the actual classes was already difficult enough. Not to mention my normal 8-9 hours of sleep have been cut to maybe five hours maximum.

Technology is a temptation. It is easy to turn your phone off and push it aside, but it also just that easy to put it back on. Taking a five minute break and going on Facebook can so easily become half an hour, and then an hour, and then a couple of hours. With all the social media, it is so difficult to stay focused.

Luckily, I put myself back on track.

The solution(s):

1.) I find that being in a place that promotes studying helps me do so. Instead of staying home where I have technology at my fingertips, I go to the library and leave my phone at home. Simply being in a different environment can work wonders for people.

Going back to the turning off the phone, it simply does not work. Surprisingly, there are apps and websites to help you concentrate when you are at home.

2.) For Mac users, there is an app called SelfControl. Like most of the following, this site is designed to block websites that you have to avoid for a set amount of time.

3.) For PC, you can get Cold Turkey. Like the SelfControl app, you are able to block websites, games and even programs.

This requires the download of a program, though. There is another option of just installing extensions. Since this option is supported by many platforms (and because someone has laid out the directions for installing them), I’ll provide a link that you can follow to block the social media. This, however, works only when you’re on the computer.


(The main site is a great help as well)

Finally, there is the problem of picking up your phone. Since, I’m more familiar with the iPhone, I’ll go ahead and talk about that. I’m pretty sure Android users have some type of solution similar to the following.

Well, you know how sometimes you put your phone on silent and then cannot find it? Do exactly that. Put your phone on silent and give it to a trusted friend to hide it for you.

So what if there is no one around?

Here is somewhat of a solution.

Grab a piece of pen and paper and go through your phone settings. Look for the option that enables you to put long passwords on your phone. Make sure it is a difficult pattern that most likely will not stick into your head. If it requires letters, let it go something like this:

hcunrghsits (a.k.a a bunch of nonsense)

JUST MAKE SURE YOU WRITE IT DOWN. Write it and leave it with the phone. Though you know where it is, it is probably going to be a hassle to type that into your phone.

Should these options not work for you, well…. You probably really, really, need some help.

Happy studying! 😀